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Once I was speaking to a group of young Christian teens about “Surrendered Life and living in Modesty,” one of the girls raised her hand and asked if she could speak. I called her up to the platform and she shared her story. She began by saying, “You all know me. You know how wild I was when I first came to this church.”

She went on to say that shortly after coming to church, she surrendered to Jesus Christ and He bagan changing everything in her life. She said she realized immediately that her clothed had to change.

I thought it was interesting that no person told her that she needed to change her wardrobe; it was God who convicted her because she was now open to listen to Him and obey Him. I believe one of the true conversion is when a person surrenders her life and she immediately wants to please God in everything.

This new desire to please God seems to open a person up to God’s voice and there is a yearning to obey Him instantly without argument.

When she looked in her closet, she realized that all her clothes were tight, revealing, or short. She had shown a lot of skin. So she went through her closet and got rid of the clothes she had been wearing. Her mom then went shopping with her to buy some looser and longer shirts and shorts that summer. She also enrolled in our Christian school for the upcoming year.

During that summer, she usually went to the mall weekly, and she came to realize that no guys were noticing her. One time when she came home, she asked, “Mom, am I ugly?” Her mom answered, “No, you’re beautiful.Why do you ask that?” She explained that previously, boys she didn’t even know used to come up to her at the mall and ask for her name and phone number. Her mom said, “Well, you’re not wearing the clothes you once wore.”

She said, “I realized then that the only guys I was attracting were the ones who wanted me only for my body.” Then she said, “I also realized I liked all their attention and craved it as much as they craved looking at me. It was an adjustment. Everything pastor Sharon is saying today is true.

Girls and women wear the sexy fashion of clothes because we have as much of a desire for guys to look at us they have had looking at us. “She realized her value didn’t rest in her outward appearance. Her transformation as a Christian made her stand up against the crowd and challenge others to live by a different standard.

Source: “What Guys See That Girls Don’t or do they?”
by Sharon Daugherty.

“Lawlessness” is not having any moral restraint over your passions or desires. Freedom in Jesus Christ means you are free from the dominion and control of your passions. It is being free from the power of sin to manipulate you and free from going your own way. It is a freedom within your spirit that you no longer live by lust’s control, but instead by the leading of the Holy Spirit.

When lust controls you, it will entangle you deeper and deeper until you feel you can’t change or go another direction. Of course, that’s a lie. That’s exactly what satan wants you to think. The truth is: Jesus Christ can deliver anyone who wants to be free from lust’s dominion.

Let’s define “lust.” Lust is to have strong desire or craving; a longing for; with the mind made up that if circumstances afforded opportunity. Lust is a state of heart and is deadly as the act of immorality itself. “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matth.5:28).

Do you crave to be looked at? Do you enjoy the thrill of knowing that guys are being sexually aroused by how you look? Some girls are satisfied with just the thrill that they can turn a guy’s head or his eyes, but this attitude can become lust. To be lustful is to provoke or excite those sensual passions in oneself and in others. A girl can get “turned on” sexually knowing that she is turning on a guy  sexually.

A person may say she is a Christian, yet if she uses no self-restraint toward creating thoughts of lust, impurity and sexual desires outside of marriage, she is as dangerous as a poisonous snake. And anybody with a thimble full of common sense avoids poisonous snakes so that they don’t get bitten and die. However many who claim to be Christians see nothing wrong with lust and being sexually involved with other people outside of marriage.

Galatians 5:19 says, “When you follow your own wrong inclinations your lives will produce these evil results: impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure”. Colossians 3:5 says, “Have nothing to do with sexual sin, impurity, lust and shameful desires….”

There are forces pulling you - in a right direction or in a wrong direction. Understand that when you are on the throne of your life, your inclinations will direct you selfishly toward fulfilling your passions, lust and desires. On the other hand, when Jesus is on the throne of your life, the Holy Spirit will incline you toward pure thoughts, right motives, godly desires and a fear of the Lord. You realize that God’s eyes “are in every place, beholding the evil and the good” (Prov.15:3). Nothing is hidden from Him and you will reap whatever seeds you sow.

Source: “What Guys See That Girls Don’t or do they?”
by Sharon Daugherty.

Most women don’t realize that guys are visual. Unlike females, males are created testosterones that, as they mature, can be easily triggered simply by looking at a female who is dressed in a way that accentuates parts of her body. Guys have much more difficulty with what they see than girls do.

When a girl sees some guy without a shirt on, it may not create any arousal to her sexual desires. However, if a man sees a woman immodestly dressed, with her breasts or belly or a lot of leg showing, he can be sexually aroused immediately. It’s part of the difference of our makeup as male and female.

When girls dress in whatever is fashionable, many of them have no comprehension of or consider what guys have to deal with in their minds. When a guys sees a girl who is wearing tight fitting, revealing clothes, he wonders in his mind if she is saying, “Come and get me”.  I want you to have whatever you want and see.” Whereas a girl may think she is simply dressing fashionably.

When a girl makes an effort to dress modestly and still stay within fashion, a guy is more likely to think, She is secure in who she is and obviously isn’t trying to find her identity in showing off her body and what she’s got. She knows what she’s got and she’s saving it for the right one whom she”’ marry one day.

Over the years, I remember hearing about young guys who weren’t saved or even thinking about God make comments like, “That girl who is showing her stuff is who Id like to play around with, but that girl [pointing out the one who was dressed more modestly] is the kind of girl I want to marry.” Why is that?

I’ll tell you why. The girl showing her body represents someone to use and throw away. The girl who is covering herself represents something valuable that they guy wants to someday possess and keep. Ask yourself, “Am I going to be a cheap throwaway, or do I want to be a valuable prize to be treasured?”

A secure guy not a “body hunter”, is attracted to the strength of a girl who sets her standards and doesn’t cave in to his or anyone else’s peer pressure. She’s not pressured by the put-down comments of other girls who talk that way, attempting to raise their own value.

She’s is also not pressured by the manipulative persuasiveness of some slick-talking guy. She’s discerning and she possesses a strength within to stand up to criticism. She knows how to look while staying within boundaries when she dresses.

The quality guy then is not attracted to her for her outward decorations as much as he is to her inner strength, her love, her “realness,” her sincerity, her genuine love for others and her desire to please God.

Warning: If you want a guy to want your body, you’ll get a guy who wants only your body. He will get what he wants from you and then he will look for another body that he sees and wants. If a guy marries a girl for her body, he’ll continue to lust  for an attractive body that he sees, even after he is married.

I’ve counseled women whose husbands married them out of lust; consequently, these women have to constantly deal with the insecurity of wondering if their husbands are cheating on them or not. They also struggle with the absence of closeness in their marriage relationship, except for sex.

This produces a sense of no value except for her body. Over a periods of time, this can cause resentment, bitterness and a loss of any intimate love toward that husband. The marriage ten becomes just an existence together. When we focus our relationship with the opposite sex on our physical body and sensual clothes, it will be based on lust. Subsequently, whatever you obtain by lust, you’ll pay for with heartache and pain, because lust is never satisfied. It always wants more and will look everywhere in order to get more.

Source: “What Guys See That Girls Don’t or do they?”
by Sharon Daugherty.

Have you ever taken one of those multiple-choice style quizzes in a magazine or online? It’s interesting how they can ask ten, or so, random little questions like, “What’s your favorite color?” or “Where did you last go on vacation?” and at the end, give you a surprisingly accurate synopsis of your personality and an overview of your fashion style. Somehow, it seems that in less than five minutes, they know more about you than your best friend! If only the other areas of our lives could be figured out so easily!

As women, we are born with an innate desire to express ourselves through our style. I can remember when I was a little girl, no one had to tell me to play in my mother’s makeup or jewelry; I just did it. It came naturally. I loved to put on her lipstick and necklaces. I felt so grown up and beautiful—even though that lipstick was anywhere on my face but my lips! No one ever had to tell me to pick out pretty dresses, and twirl around in them. And, as I grew up, no one had to tell me to love shopping, either!

It’s no secret. Most women do love to shop. Whether we buy anything or not, we can find satisfaction just in the experience. But, have you ever been shopping with a friend, trying to help them pick out clothes and they say, “Oh that’s not me.” Or “That is so me!” Women naturally want to make sure their clothing style accurately reflects who they are. Have you ever noticed that men don’t talk like that when they buy clothes? In most cases, they aren’t saying things like, “That is so me!” or “I feel fabulous in this!” They are buying clothes first and foremost out of necessity, and either the item they see fits the bill, or it doesn’t. Women dress according to their mood and feelings, men dress according to the facts, what they need to wear that day. That’s why men will never understand when a woman stares at her closet full of clothes and exclaims, “I have nothing to wear!” What she’s really saying is, “I can’t find anything that I feel comfortable in today.”

But have you ever thought that God created you that way for a purpose? Webster’s defines “style” as a distinctive manner of expression or behavior. Yes, we have our own fashion style in the natural, but did you know that we have a spiritual style, too? Just as you want to feel comfortable in your clothes in the natural, God wants you to feel comfortable in your spiritual clothes, too. He put something deep on the inside of you to recognize when you’re wearing something that just “isn’t you.” For example, Isaiah 61 talks about wearing a garment of praise instead of a spirit of heaviness. The bible also talks about wearing a robe of righteousness and a garment of salvation. We should recognize that any time we are feeling weighted down by the pressures of life, anytime we start feeling like we don’t measure up, any time we feel overwhelmed we should take one look at our spiritual mirror, the Word of God, and say, “Oh that’s not me at all!”” We need to take off those old, dirty garments of self-defeating thoughts and put on garments of peace, righteousness, praise, and love.

I love what is says in I Peter 3:3-5. It says that as women, we shouldn’t just focus all of our efforts on our external appearance, but we should remember that our inward appearance, our heart, is our most important accessory. It tells us that we should focus on having a gentle and peaceful spirit, we shouldn’t be anxious or easily upset, but we should reflect the character and style of God. Peter’s basically saying, “Listen, I know you women love to dress up, but let’s keep things in perspective. Let’s follow the example of the faithful women of days gone by who took care of their external appearance and their internal appearance.”

Remember, true beauty isn’t about what you look like, it’s the experience you leave with the people you encounter on a daily basis. Think about a beautiful song. You can’t see it, but yet it touches your inner being. In the same way, we should deposit good things into the lives of others. Do people leave your presence better off than they were before? The scripture tells us that when we bring Good News to others, even our feet are beautiful!

Make the choice today to allow the character and style of God to flow through you. Look for ways to do something beautiful in the lives of the people you encounter today. As you do, you’ll feel His garments cover your heart, and you will move forward in confidence knowing that His style is reflected in you.

By Victoria Osteen

The attitude of compromise has affected many Christians and churches today, and even some in leadership positions have comprised their lifestyles. Other leaders have been afraid to speak up and bring attention to areas that need to be corrected because of fear of offending people.

Sometimes in the desire to be accepted and popular, a person agrees with the crowd to please them instead of standing up to and challenging them toward what is right. It takes strength to go against the crowd and lovingly speak up and address what needs to be corrected. I personally have come to realize that it is good for each of us to check ourselves regularly, making sure we are seeking to please Jesus and not simply conforming to the world’s standards or what other Christians’ ideas may be, which are not godly.

In an article in Charisma magazine, August 2004, titled, “Put on Some Clothes!” Valerie Lowe shared, “Last year when a well-known female preacher arrived at a Pentecostal conference wearing an extremely tight dress, leaders of the group apologized to attendees and promised, “She will never preach here again.”

Do you think that was harsh? let me ask you another question” Do you think she was dressing to please God or to just look good? I don’t know who this person is, but if she wasn’t convicted over the situation, it is possible that her heart has become hardened to that still small voice.

The more sensitive we are to His still small voice, the more sensitive we will be in how we come across to those we desire to reach or tech. Romans 14:15 indicates that when your brother (or sister) in Christ is grieved over what you are doing, it’s time to evaluate your love walk. It’s time to consider how much you are willing to lay down in order to communicate the Gospel of Jesus

In this article, Valerie Lowe continues: “One Florida pastor, frustrate about immodest dress among his congregants, confronted the problem during Sunday morning worship. “When you wear your clothes tight and short enough, you’re making a statement about yourself. My advice to you is, “If you are not for sale, please take the sign down!”

Here is another question: What kind of girls or women sell themselves? Here’s an answer: The kind who make money with their bodies. Is that the kind of women you want others to view you as? Is there such thing as a Christian prostitute? According to God’s Word, the answer is “No.” (I realize in our society’s mind-set today, some might have different opinions. However, our standard to live is not the opinions of others but the opinion of God.)

Does the grace of God remove self-restraint and consideration for others? It seems that many in the church world have focused so much on a “no boundary” grace and freedom that they have removed any sense of responsibility of restraint on themselves. Self-restraint and consideration of others are characteristics of being led by the Holy Spirit. Having boundaries in our lives is fruit of true christianity. Remember, one fruit of the Spirit is self-control (see Gal.5:22-23).

Today it can be hard to tell if a girl is a christian or not if you only take into account the way she dresses. Most girls dress according to fashion without thinking about it. But whether you realize it or not, you are communicating to others with your clothes.

This may be a new thought for you to consider. We not only communicate with our words, but we communicate with how we dress. For example, it’s a general understanding that if an event you are attending is casual, you might wear clothes such as jeans and a T-shirt. If you were to wear a formal evening gown at this function, people would look at you strangely. Wheres, if you attended a more formal occasion, you would probaly wear a formal dress or a semi-formal pantsuit. Anything casual would draw attention as being “out of place.” The type of gathering you are attending is communicated by what you wear.

Here’s another thought to consider: We also communicate by the way we wear clothes. We communicate if we secure or insecure, in need of attention, or fearful of any attention, seductive, guarded or loose, feminine or manly, naive or totally aware. In any case, no matter what the occasion, or what we are wearing, or how we are wearing it, the Word of God tells us God’s will is for us to dress modestly.

Source: “What Guys See That Girls Don’t or do they?”
by Sharon Daugherty.

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1. The point to be noted here is that, if you are choosing a dress or a shirt with stripes, do not choose horizontal and vertical lined apparels as they will make you look a lot fatter than you actually are. It will be suitable if you wear diagonal stripes or zigzag patterned clothing.

2. If you are a lot chubbier on your hips and thighs, it will be reasonable to try wearing boot-cut pants rather than straight fitted pants. The boot cut pants will give you an even facade.

3. If you have a larger waist does not mean that you have the authority to sport bulky belts and heavy waist jewelry as it will not add elegance but highlight your huge behind. Try opting for some delicate pieces of belts and jewelry.

4. Heeled shoes can surely make your overall appearance change and make you look a lot slimmer and taller by dividing your body weight properly.

5. You can slip in your shirt to make your legs to look longer and your overall give you a taller look.

6. It is highly important to keep checking you undergarments and thinking if you need some new ones. For instance, have you seen a bulk of flesh hanging out and clearly seen through your fitted top, on the other hand, have you noticed panty lines? Well, they surely look embarrassing and make sure you buy comfortable under garments that will not make a fool of yourself.

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